The Importance of Intimacy

If you are a married woman of God, chances are you have been told about the importance of intimacy, but every once in a while we need a little reminder of God's intended purpose for intimacy. There are several ways to be intimate with your husband, but today we are going to focus one one kind-- sexual intimacy.

The term "sexless-marriage" is used to describe a marriage that has dwindled it's sex count to 10 times or less per year. Studies show that 15-20% of American marriages--including Christian marriages-- fit this category. That is roughly 1/5th of all marriages, meaning 1 out of five couples are sexually deprived! 

Sex provides an intimate connection. This connection is the glue God gave us to hold our marriages together. We are designed to crave sex, and when we don't get enough of it, the results can be devastating. Spouses that lack intimacy try to fill that void by keeping themselves busy with work, ministry, hobbies, sports, etc, and when they do not find fulfillment, divorce becomes an option.

Other than divorce, another threat in Christian marriages is very real --infidelity.

I am not trying to scare you into having sex with your husbands so that they won't cheat on you. I am simply saying that if you want to know what your true purpose in life is, the Bible summarizes it perfectly:

1:Corinthians 11:7-9 "Woman is the glory of man. For man is not from woman, but woman from man. Nor was man created for the woman, but woman for the man."

You were created FOR your husband. That's God's purpose for our lives as wives whether society likes it or not.

You do not own your body--your husband does. Your husband also does not own his body. You do.

1 Corinthians 7:4 says, "For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does."

If your husband asks for sex, never deny him, just as you shouldn't deny God your time or intimacy with him. If you can't seem to find the time, MAKE the time.

The devil WANTS to destroy your marriage.

1 Peter 5:8 says, "Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour."

Satan hates marriages, because marriage is the image of God's unbreakable love for us. If Satan can destroy a marriage, he destroys the mystery of a loving God who has a binding relationship and covenant with us. Since the beginning of time Satan has tried to twist the beauty of the covenant between husband and wife to mar God's image. Don't give the Devil the option! Fight for your marriages through praying together, reading the Bible with one another, and through reliable and continuous intimacy.

I challenge you to begin reading the Songs of Solomon with your spouse. If they can't read it with you, read it alone. Rekindle your Godly passions, and desire your husband always, as you ought to desire your Lord.