When I say this word, much comes to mind-- Celebrities, the Hollywood sign, movies of love and romance...
Hollywood has completely redefined the way that the world sees, well, pretty much everything! Though Hollywood has been continuously attacked and blamed for the nation's deteriorating self image through its use of unrealistic physical expectations of men and women, greater corruption lies in their portrayal of love.
Women today, believe that men ought to worship them. We must be wooed and pampered. When our partners aren't thoughtful, we become bitter and we feel unloved. We expect surprises, long walks on the beach, and picnics in the park. Spontaneity equates with romance to us, for that is what we have been taught--thanks Hollywood!
As a result, much of the world today believes that love is just a feeling. This feeling overwhelms the person, and they "fall in love." You're probably thinking, "Well, what's wrong with that?
Love based solely on feelings is flawed. The Bible says in Jeremiah 17:9, "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?"
Proof of this lies in your past experiences. How many times have you fallen in love before marrying your spouse? I know I have had a first, second, and third love before uniting with my husband.
This "puppy love," actually gives us a sort of high, and we form a connection--or rather an addiction. After the honeymoon phase is over, we suffer from withdrawal. Things just aren't the same. Two or three kids later, you can't help but ask yourself, "Does he still love me?"
You blame your partner for the lack of romance. Where has the passion gone and how can we get it back? You just don't feel happy anymore.
I am writing this to tell you that though God does care about your happiness, he is more concerned with your Holiness. So how can we create, "Holy passions?"
By choice. You simply have to CHOOSE to love--unconditionally. In a Christian relationship, you should spend more time worrying about your partner's needs than your own. I am not saying to entirely neglect yourself, but use your judgment to discern what are truly needs, and what are just wants. We are called to love the unloveable, as Christ loved us and died for us when we did not deserve it either.
Passions of the heart fade whether you have a relationship with God or not, but Holy passions will never fade, because the Holy Spirit will continue to flood you with passion as long as you permit him to. Will you allow God to revive your relationship? Seek God today. Pray, and ask him to revive your holy passions so that you can love your husband as Christ loves the church. Pray that God gives you wisdom so that you will be able to identify and fulfill your partner's needs today. I challenge you to make today all about them.
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